What a shock: our newborn son had died from an unnatural cause

Three beautiful children

I am a mother of three beautiful children, one of whom is a star child who passed away last March at 7 weeks old. I already had a daughter from a previous relationship who is 10 years old and another son who is 2 years old from the same father.

His father initially wanted nothing to do with him

My two-year-old son was conceived during a one night stand. His father didn't show any sign of life or anything for 9 months. I did everything on my own because he didn't want to know anything about it and absolutely didn't want a child. Eventually, I decided to give him a chance when our son was born. Then he started to show some interest. He did great, was a good dad and nothing was too much for him. Despite our significant age difference, with him being much younger than me, he did everything like an experienced father would.

I began to notice more and more peculiar traits

Our relationship was going well at the beginning. But the longer we were together, the more narcissistic traits I began to notice. He tried to isolate me from the outside world, which meant I didn't see much of my family and friends anymore. Shortly after that, I became pregnant with our third child. The pregnancy was very tough, with pelvic instability and seven months of constant nausea. I also had to deal with most things on my own.

We were a happy family with our third child

Eventually, on 02-04-2023, our son was born. After a smooth delivery, we were allowed to go home just two hours later. Big sister came to pick us up with grandma, everything went well. He maintained his temperature well, gained weight properly, and drank his bottles well. Sleeping also went well. For the first few weeks, we were a complete and happy family. Until the day of March 19, 2023.

Our newborn son has fallen

I wasn't home myself but went with my daughter to a gymnastics competition. Something that had happened around 06:00 AM, he only told me about it 10 hours later. He had let our newborn son fall off the couch. I thought: 'That could happen to any parent,' but I found it strange that it was only told 10 hours later. I immediately contacted the out-of-hours medical service. They allowed us to come in, but because he was still drinking his bottles well, they sent us home. I disagreed with this and demanded a scan. He was only 6 weeks old, so vulnerable. I wanted to make sure nothing was wrong. But unfortunately, we didn't get one. We drove home. After that day, he started to cry a lot. I went to the general practitioner, an osteopath, the child health clinic, but no one could find the cause. Then we got physical therapy. I didn't feel like it was helping; it seemed to only get worse.

My little guy didn't look good at all

Ten days later, on March 29, 2023, the darkest day of my life. I came downstairs around 07:00 AM and saw my dear little boy pale and ashen. There was no life in him. I said to my now ex-partner: “What's wrong?”. “Well, he didn't want his bottles,” was the answer. I immediately called the medical post. He had a temperature of 34.5 degrees. Way too low. I had to come right away. In hindsight, it was their mistake: they should have sent an ambulance.

Could something have happened to him?

Once there, everything happened very quickly. From the general practitioner's office to the emergency room, multiple scans were done and such, and then he was urgently transported to Rotterdam. In Rotterdam, we were immediately told that something had happened to him. I knew 100% that I hadn't done anything, but who did? There were five of us in the house. My ex acted as if he knew nothing. What could have happened?

Nothing more could be done for him

The days that followed were long. All sorts of tests were conducted. On Thursday, March 30, we had a meeting with the doctors who told us that there was nothing more they could do for my dear little boy. We had to call everyone to come and say goodbye. The next day, he would be taken off the ventilator. It was so incredibly surreal. He had so many epileptic seizures because his little brain was so damaged. How could this have happened?

On Friday, March 31, 2023, around 4:00 PM, the ventilation was removed and my dear little boy passed away in my arms.

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CYNTHIA